You can have it all, Leaning In to the best version of myself

You can have it all, Leaning In to the best version of myself

I always knew I wanted to make a difference in the world, but wasn’t sure how to put my best foot forward. Although I am one of the 18 billion people living on this earth, I can still try to make a difference by being……the best version of myself.

Recently, I had a school project (yes in grad school you still have group projects except they’re 22 pages long). I had to do a Deep Content Analysis on five living people I found to be the best example of what I hope to be one day or achieve to be like. Besides Mr. Disney, aka Bob Iger and of course the actual queen Reese Witherspoon, who is obvious goals in real life and can do no wrong- you know besides her DUI boyfriend that drove .1 over the legal limit but who counts that anyways? I came upon Sheryl Sanberg, COO of the OG social media, Facebook (if your thinking Myspace counts, it totally doesn’t). She wrote a book called Lean In, that kind of aligns with #TimesUp and #MeToo.

This book showed that women have the power to be able to do whatever they like, we just have to chase after it. The main point of the book, was to go after everything you want in life and all of a sudden it clicked. Why can’t I have it all? Why can’t I have a career I love while actually living? Balance is the key and you are the controller of your own life. So here are 5 things to keep in mind while figuring out how to get the best of all worlds:

Technology is your friend

Not only is it your friend, it’s the future. Keep up with the trends and learn about the good technology has done but, always make sure to keep two feet on the ground. In a world that has constantly been chaning and growing, make sure what you put out there is positive, hopeful and reflects the person you are trying to be.

Always make time for yourself

Sometimes we choose to put ourselves on the backburner. 2017 for me was my “put myself before others” year and I can only tell you how amazing it was to say no to people and to really focus on what I needed to do for me. Focusing on me by making time to workout, setting time aside to do whatever I want, choosing to further my education instead of going to happy hour with my friends, these are the sacrifices I chose to make that have helped me grow.

Surround yourself with the right people

I cannot emphasize this enough, you need funny, genuine, not perfect, but very real and down to earth people who make every situation better. There are people out there that want to see you fail and in the follow/unfollow stage that we are in today, it’s hard to see who your true cheerleaders are. The people you surround yourself with show a lot about your character and having people that are supportive and genuinely interested in your personal growth are the kind of people that will help you achieve your goals and reach your dreams.

Celebrate small wins with meaningful work

I read an article from Business Insider a while back about how we need to focus our small wins by doing meaningful work. But what does meaningful work mean exactly? It means following your passions, your desires and your interests, even if they are unpopular. Small wins end up developing into big ones much like great things take time (I mean Rome wasn’t built in a day, right?). Maybe its the organized planner in me or maybe its the fact that I grew up with a Type A Accountant,  either way when you do small things like order a salad instead of fries that’s when they lead to bigger wins like when I finish that 22 page paper I worked on section by section. When you continuously give quality in small but meaningful dosages, your work is quality and it shines through as part of you.

Always have confidence in yourself

Whether it be a first date, a big interview or meeting new people- you have to have to work on yourself and be happy with who you are. Although I’m not where I would ideally like to be, I am working everyday to get there which motivates me to be the best version that I am. If you don’t have confidence in yourself, it will be hard for other people to have confidence in you as well.

Remember,  “doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will”.

6 thoughts on “You can have it all, Leaning In to the best version of myself

  1. As I read this, it really got me thinking about my own lifestyle choices, and how there is still so much for me to work on. This is great advice for anyone, regardless of age or financial status, because it goes to the core of self esteem and self confidence. Wonderful article.

    1. Thank you Angel! There is 24 hours in a day but we can make so much more happen in those 24 hours by staying organized. Check back in next month for my article on how to stay organized to reach your goals!

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